Ep.7/ How to Make Sense of Relationships with Human Design
TL:DR - If you understand the mechanics of everyone’s design, you get to easily leverage strengths and manage challenges.
Human Design teaches us about ALL kinds of relationships, because it’s a mechanical map of how we best interact with one another.
What we know about relationships even without HD:
Really loving someone means accepting them as they are
Comparison isn’t helpful
You can’t expect folks to look at the world, or react to the world in the same way you do (and also how boring would that be?!)
Your gifts are not the same as the gifts of the folks who are closest to you
With HD, generally speaking, we’re reminded that:
We’re SUPPOSED to be unique and different
This applies to our perspectives, gifts, ways of being… all the things, really
We need one another…
…Not only because of differences in definition and openness in the chart, but also because bumping up against each other is how we sort ourselves out in many ways
Recognizing that your partner brings a different perspective, AND that yours is also valid
Being ok with the fact that eating habits vary person to person, and its unfair to expect everyone to do it like you, AND you get to decide how YOU do it
Learning to recognize where we’ve fallen short with the folks we love, and be accountable for our actions
There are as many ways to do life ‘correctly’ as there are people on the planet
It’s important to spend time in your own energy and space to empty out and simply be yourself.
More specifically, when you start looking at the mechanics of human design charts, we see:
Interplay between definition and openness
Where one person is defined, and the other isn’t, there’s a higher likelihood of
Conditioning (if one person has definition in a center and the other doesn’t, particularly in parent/child relationships)
Comparison
Burnout (trying to keep up with conditioning of your undefined center)
Shame (because you can’t keep up — you were never meant to)
Bouncing and escalation between the folks involved (I see this most often with emotional escalation if two folks both have an undefined solar plexus)
Sparking when each person has one piece of a channel (BIG BIG strength!! Leverage these places with your people!)
Interplay between types
Manifestors feeling pressured to need to ask for permission, rather than simply doing what they want to do (which is their correct energetic course)
Projectors speaking up if they’ve not been invited
Generators trying to get the party going, rather than responding to what their partner or life is presenting to them
Etc
Human design isn’t a dogmatic rulebook about who can or cannot spend time together. It’s more like a travel guidebook that lets you know the best places to see, the best ways to travel, and how to have the best time with the folks you love most.
